Lifeless Life
What I think, there may be three reasons that has constrained such woman to live this lifeless life.
1.) Fear of self; fear of being alone in this inhuman world.
2.) Fear of her children’s future.
3.) Choked with dogmatic thinking of accepting his pati as Parmeshwar
Well, 3rd reason seems me quite absurd and if there is any exception, this will be just an adoption to defend her; to be satisfied by escapism philosophy that all, which is happening, is just result of her sins in past which is inevitable to bear in this life.
‘Fear of being alone’ is real problem, every woman have to face in this male chauvinist society. Despite she is earning member, the environment surrounds her is so bigotry that her one step of releasing herself from this hellish life would lead her to social isolation. Not only men but also the other women who are suffering too, are not going to support anyone. Ignorance breeds many deadly emotions like envy and mercilessness. A comparison that her husband beats her less than other becomes a fact of pride.
“Fear of children future” is very natural for a woman who feels a responsibility. No doubt, for a proper development of children, requirement of father is as much important as a mother. But what about those families where everyday children has to witness the naked brutality and cruelty of his father, hopelessness of her mother?
The reason of such fear, I think, is just a lack of self confidence. She has courage; she is industrious; she can earn, even can take care of children but a inhibition of doing strange, unusual is preventing to put her step. A triggering is required. And people, like us can trigger. An NGO can trigger. Media can trigger. Just she has to straighten her courage and persistence in the line of her hopelessness and weakness, many things will be sort out.
I really appreciate Kiran Bedi for her noble work in “AAP KI KACHEHRI” and give kudos to media for such constructive way to sort out such problems. She certainly proves that we can do more than to just write article on such issues. Hope! In future I will be part of such satisfying work.
A quote from my own post...
The real significance of our life reflects from the radiating eyes and happy smile, which we bring out to human being through our deeds, in the journey of our life.
Comments
Thanks for the comment... :)
Really it is very serious issue that has made their life hellish. They are in situation....neither then can live nor can leave. That is the reason why I have called their life...Lifeless Life....
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Really, for such people, marriage is like agreement in which wife should act as a slave for whole life.
I hope and pray for change to come soon... :)
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shilpa
Btw, one small error.
"I really appreciate Kiran Bedi for 'his' noble work in “AAP KI KACHEHRI” "
Make that 'her' will you?
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Glad that u liked it so much... :)
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U r true... and these norms should be changed...:)
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Well, it may be emotional attachement..
But real question is why one(woman) who is beaten; one who is weak; one who feels inferior has an emotional attachent
...If their husband are also emotinally attached, they never beat.... can it not be mutual?
So, I somehow feel, it is dependecy, fear of being alone which forces women to be emotinally attached. It is not love but a compulsion....
Just see other countries where women are independent..their independency never let them to bear the traumatic sufferings given by their husbands....they are not emotinally attached like India...becoz they are independent....
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U truly said..Knowledge is power..and solve this problem to a great extent by making them economically Independent......
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Just going to check out... :)
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if these laws are implemented rigoursly we could provide a safe ambience for the whole women bunch...
nice post !!
keep blogging :)
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such dogmatism really needs to be curbed..and yes I am also a fan of Kiran Bedi...she is doing a great job!! as you are!!
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Kiran bedi rocks!!!
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Thanks a lot for such encouraging and lovely words... :)
Keep visiting :)
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All the three points of yours make sense.
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welcome to my blog..
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It's really distressful... :)
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Keep posting dear.Your blog always has real substance.
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I dont know how some men behave the way they do.. we had a maid long time back a lil older lady and she came over one day with a black eye saying her married son had done dat...
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Our mythology and scriptures are full of anecdotes/examples/metaphors... and the "Mahabharata" and the "Ramayana" are no different.
These are still not understood very well... and debates and discussions are raging... to this day.
Lord Krishna was a transformational leader. He was also the greatest Guru, teacher, guide, friend, philosopher, mentor.
Lord Krishna has also said that the "Mahabharata" is the greatest book ever... echos of it can be found in events down the ages... but what is not there in this book... is not found anywhere.
An event described in the "Mahabharata"..."Draupadi's vastraharan"... is an event... perhaps. It is also an example or even a metaphor. On the "decadence" of society, on the norms of culture and the decadence of "dharma". "Dharma" is is not "religion" as we understand today. It is "rightousness".
If people deviate from "dharma"... what eventually happens or what their failing to do their "dharma" leads to... is shown very well through this one event/metaphor.
As Lord Krishna too mentions... in the "Bhagavad Gita". A society which stood by silently and simply watched, did not react nor protested... on such a shameful event... the "vastrahaaran" of Draupadi... on the "apamaan" of the Queen of Hastinapur, the daughter of King Drupad... an extraordinary woman, a major and important personality in her own right... what will such a society do when ordinary people... including ordinary women are subjected to ill treatment, injustice and torture.
It will shatter a society and give rise to all kinds of ills.
Therefore, Lord Krishna advises Arjun and all of us... to do our "duty"... to uphold "dharma"... without thinking or worrying about the "result" or the "aftermath".... failing which we are doomed forever. We should not blame "external" factors for the failure or the decadence of society... it happens due to our actions... only.
Unfortunately... his words are being echoed in our society...
Really it is a pathetic situation prevailing in Indian society which has made the life of woman miserable.....But somehow, I feel that as an Individual, we should have a feeling of duty to prevent it as much as possible.
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Thanks a lot for such enlightening comment.. :)
I am solely agree with you on every point, you said, about the reason why the concept of pati and parmeshwar is so deepened in the consciousness of Indian people. Really I also feel, it is all outcome due to conditioning of human being that has led them to accept such disastrous beleifs.
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glad ppl like u exist in our so called MCP society...
another reason y women continue to stay wid such husbands is coz they lack financial independence..that arising from lack of education..
and one thing i persnally feel is in our society children our brouht up with gender bias..sumwhere boys are GIVEN preference n TOLD THAT THEY ARE SUPERIOR TO WOMEN...n if that continues...generation after generation this SHALL CONTINUE...
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