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Love; In A New Paradigm

'Love' is one of the most popular words of English literature. But somehow, I feel the description of love is too irrational. I am calling it irrational because I never find rational background where it's exact meaning can be conveyed. I am not only one who is calling it irrational; our mystics, Sufis and sages also have been decorating it with 'irrational', 'no-mind', 'timeless' and other similar adjectives for centuries. Our poems, songs, sayaris have alienated the sense of love on such a virtual ground that it seems impossible to relate it to our life in a rational way.

Well, after reading some articles, I come to conclusion that 'Love' has a rational background. Love is to be valued because it enhances all the pleasures of life like music, beauty of mountains, sunrise and sunset. It can be experienced and can be felt in a very pragmatic way. And if someone has not felt it, he has missed to realize the absolute pleasure which could be realized.
Nature has made male and female with such instinctive purposes that to fulfill it; both need a complete biological cooperation. This absolute cooperation hammers the stiff shield of ego. An egoless nature is sine qua non for enjoying the magical pleasure of love.
Love is the commonest form of emotion leading to cooperation. Rationally, one can not consider love as one's state of being (to be independent of the person who is loved). Do people feel that Love is only giving? No doubt, there are exceptions. But I doubt, hardly anyone can implement such ideas in their practical life. These ideas can be enjoyed in poetry but can be hardly felt in personal life. And the real problem arises when so called definition of love contradicts the rationality of our life.
Like most of the things, love is not state-independent. Love between mother and her child is the highest form of love. Then there is our love with brother, sister, wife, community and nation. It is the intensity of love which classifies love into different states.
I do not know, to what extent, I have justified the word 'Love' as I am not very familiar with this word. But one thing I have felt, absence of love gives pain.

*Dear Reader! The sense of 'Love' is so profound that it hardly can be explained fully or perfectly by a person like me. It is just a curiosity to understand it in a scientific way(in a rational perspective)..... 


Sat_hi_sh said…
The finishing part was really kewl man :)
"Absence of love gives pain"

u keep ur blog covering various aspects man :)

keep blogging :)
- Sugar Cube - said…
Quite a different perspective.
I haven't myself been able to conclude what I think of it yet.
Roshmi Sinha said…
Makes for a nice read with a different perspective...
raghvendra said…
i take "love" only as a feeling of thinking about the happiness of someone whom you love either he, she, mother, father, brother, child or someone
either they are happy with you or without you..
all that is love is the totally devotedness for their happiness..
i wish my love will always happy in life , whatever they needs, they got it......

please make me correct if i have something wrong perception
Indian Pundit said…
Great post Amit.

Love makes our life worth living.
Love of parents,friends and wife.

R S V said…
that was a very scientific approach to love's hitherto unknown practical aspect...I am in total agreement with when you say that it is the intensity of love that classifies it into various states..
take a bow from my side...
Singh Amit said…
@ Sathish..

Thanks a lot.. :)
Keep visiting :)
Singh Amit said…
@ Sugar Cube..

Thanks a lot :)
Well, It's hard for me to conclude too..Just I was trying to understand it's meaning in more scientific way... :)

Singh Amit said…
@ Roshmi Sinha...

Thanks a lot.. :)

Singh Amit said…
@ Raghvendra...

Thanks for comment.. :)

Well, ur thinking about love is perfect and inclusive unless it is forced and egocentic...

Singh Amit said…
@ IP

Thanks a lot.. :)
Glad that u liked it.. :)

Singh Amit said…

Thanks a lot.. :)
The sense of 'Love' is so profound that I too can not fully agree with my explanation..But it is the curiosity of human being to know the things in different perspectives and it is one of those attempts.

raghvendra said…
@ amit
i don't think a true love can have any space for ego or it is forced..
even this is absolute that where is love we fight..after they are with us..
afterall i want to say that all your post are very nice , they all have some good theme and feeling.. great job..keep it on :))
Shankar said…
A very nice one amith... ya..its very profound ad explaining love is a bit difficult..but ur scientific understanding is good..
BK Chowla said…
Very well written post.Love is something which is difficult to define but you have expressed very well.
Singh Amit said…
@ Raghvendra..
Thanks a lot for ur encouraging words..
I will try my best to fulfill your expectation to me, in future too :)

Happybirdie said…
Whatever you may call it but love is one emotion that can really bring the best out of you...It is the best thing that can happen to u.
And you took the scientific approach.Typical you!!
Very well written dear:)
Singh Amit said…
@ Shankar..
Thanks a lot.. :)
keep visiting.. :)
Singh Amit said…
@Chowla ji..
Thanks a lot.. :)
Glad that u liked it.. :)

Singh Amit said…
"Whatever you may call it but love is one emotion that can really bring the best out of you"

This is the best comment for my post as I feel, it is essence of this post...
Thanks a lot.. :)
Durga Nandan said…
Love for blood [I mean relations] is selfish. Love for physical nearness, is selfish.

Love for anything but just seeing the other happy, is selfish. Love, without motives is divine.

I have seen plenty of the first type.
Second, rare. Though a few.
What makes love, love, is the undefinable quality of it. It could be anything. Anywhere. For anyone.

The pic is sweet. :)
Durga. :)
Bharathi said…
Hav you read my post on love? I would love your comment.

secondly, can you think why a mother is affectionate to her child in a more unbiased way?
Singh Amit said…
@Durga Nandan..

Thanks a lot.. :)

"What makes love, love, is the undefinable quality of it. It could be anything. Anywhere. For anyone."

very true... :)

Singh Amit said…
Thanks a lot… :)

It is very difficult question to answer in words as it is something which I have felt personally. But for explanation, I can say ,it is the purest and egoless expression of love that can be realized. Purest and Egoless? Ego is feeling of self. But as every child is a part of his mother, which she has not to believe but it is known to him from very birth of child. How can ego stand between same self? Psychologically and subconsciously, child and mother are more attached than any other relation. So, Somehow I believe this is the love, for which only women are blessed.

I find it apt to say ," God could not be everywhere, therefore he made mother."

anushree said…
i loved this pic. its so sweet..i loved article aswell...but love..scientific...i dint really get..but who cares....i enjoyed reading this prim n perfect...boy its amaing!

keep loving!:)
rashmi said…
very nice article..
a vivid description of love..
well read it somewhere and liked it..
"Love is a temporary madness. It erupts like an earthquake and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion. That is just being "in love" which any of us can convince ourselves we are."
-St. Augustine
btw the pic is really cute.. :)
keep writing such posts..
Singh Amit said…
@ Anushree..
Thanks a lot... :)
Glad that u liked it.. :)
Keep visiting...:)
Singh Amit said…
@ Rashmi..
Thanks a lot.. :)

"That is just being "in love" which any of us can convince ourselves we are."

It's so true and profound... :)

Babli said…
Excellent post. You have described very nicely about the true love. Love plays a very important role in our life and that may be for brother,sister,dad,mom,husband or wife. Without love, life does not exists. Love is like a flower which blossoms every day with new fragrance giving a new meaning in life and spreading happiness. I like each and every article of yours. Keep writing.
Singh Amit said…
@ Babli...
Thanks a lot.. :)

"Without love, life does not exists"

So true..
Glad that u liked it..

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