Eve teasing, exploitation and abuse, a girl will be definitely an exception if she has not witnessed these disastrous incidents once, in her whole life. I have just read about such a shocking incident, happened to a girl from a blog. What triggers a man to do such heinous and shocking evil? Is it our culture; is it our morality for which we are boasting from centuries? Where is the fundamental fault that is distorting their soul into such a sick and sullied soul?
Let me tell you a story first...
Once, Sigmund Freud was holidaying with his wife and 8 year child in a beautiful park. While they were returning, Freud and his wife got shocked when they did not find his child with them. Freud asked his wife at once,” Did you forbid the child to go any place in the park?” His wife could not understand what an absurd question, he was asking. But with puzzling mind, he replied that she prohibited him not to go near fountain. Soon Freud and his wife approached to the fountain, they found their child standing nearby the fountain.
What does this story teach...?
Denial creates attraction. A child rarely accepts the ban imposed, if he do then it is just superficially, but not psychologically. As we grow, this denial becomes habitual and psychologically, we are caught up in the grave danger of duality.
Denial of natural impulses is suppression. The slight deviation from the denied mentality creates the sense of guilt. Suppression and sense of guilt make a man, mentally weaker. The lack of option to satisfy the desire, arising due to physiology of human body, leads one to commit crimes. A psychological freedom is necessary, but freedom without knowledge in these regard is not adequate. What do you feel, who has more probability to commit crimes, a suppressed, non-intellectual, frustrated, dejected and depressed man or a psychologically free, intellectual, happy man. An artistic man transforms his suppression into his artistic expression. So somehow I feel that art is effective to release the natural impulses.
Denial is still prevailing in the society. I was amazed to know that in this era also there are engineering colleges (Satybhama University) who puts a curtain between boys and girls while giving lectures to them. Do you think it can stop the eve teasing? I think it will stimulate its breeding.
Love, companionship and knowledge can only eliminate the roots of such evil. Fear and prohibition are temporary solution. I am not saying that eve teaser should not be punished and should start providing them love and companionship instead of sending them to jail. What I want to say with the temporary solution of fear, we should sow the seeds of love and knowledge in the minds of youth so that the root of evil can be cut down.
As Bertrand Russell explains,
“Healthy, outward-looking men and women are not to be produced by the thwarting the natural impulses, but by the equal and balanced development of all the impulses essential to happy life.”